Debate |
Dialogue |
is oppositional: two sides oppose each other and attempt to prove each other wrong. |
is collaborative: two or more sides work together toward common understanding. |
winning is the goal. |
finding common ground is the goal. |
participants tend to speak representing a group with a specific opinion. |
participants speak as individuals about their own unique experiences and uncertainties. |
one listens to the other side in order to find flaws and to counter its arguments. |
one listens to the other side(s) in order to understand, find meaning and find agreement. |
atmosphere is often threatening, confrontations and interruptions are expected. |
atmosphere is one of safety, and promotes a respectful exchange. |
affirms a participant’s own point of view. |
enlarges and possibly changes a participants point of view. |
defends assumptions as truth. |
reveals assumptions for re-evaluation. |
causes critique of the other position. |
causes introspection on ones own position. |
participants listen to refute other ideas, and questions are often rhetorical challenges or disguised statements. |
participants listen to understand, and questions are to gain insight into the understandings of others. |
defends one’s own positions as the best solution and excludes other solutions. |
opens the possibility of reaching a better solution than any of the original solutions. |
creates a closed-minded attitude, a determination to be right. |
creates an open-minded attitude, an openness to being wrong and an openness to change. |
submits one’s best thinking and defends it against challenge to show that it is right. |
submits ones best thinking, knowing that other people’s reflections will help improve it rather than destroy it. |
calls for investing wholeheartedly in one’s beliefs. |
calls for temporarily suspending one’s beliefs. |
searches for glaring differences, and flaws and weaknesses in the other position. |
searches for basic agreements, and strengths in the other positions. |
counters other viewpoints without focusing on feelings or relationship and often belittling or deprecating the other person. |
involves a real concern for the other person and seeks to not alienate or offend. |
statements are often predictable and reveal little new information. |
new information and insight emerges. |
success requires simple impassionate statements. |
success requires exploration of the complexities of the issue being discussed. |
assumes that there is a right answer and that someone has it. |
assumes that many people have pieces of the answer and that together they can put them into a workable solution. |